So… you’re stuck. Feeling stuck is normal. Feeling stuck is part of the human condition. Sometimes, the changes we want to make in life seem so close as to be nearly within our grasp and yet still too far away to get the traction we need to make them.
There’s nothing wrong in feeling stuck. The feeling of stuckness is evidence that there’s something brewing, something that needs to be released, something new that needs to be brought into the light. Indeed, it could be argued that the more stuck you feel, the more important it is to do what needs to be done to get things moving forward. The stuckness, or resistance, usually presents itself in direct proportion to the importance of the thing you’re struggling with.
Resistance is like an invisible force pushing against us, preventing forward motion.
Why do we get stuck? Here are a few of the most common things I help people with on a day to day basis.
- Trying to do difficult things without help.
- Impostor syndrome.
- Trying to be good at everything.
- Creative block.
- Over-thinking things.
- Confusion resulting from reading too many psychology/self help/marketing books.
- Letting the inner critic take hold.
- Letting other people push us off course.
- Self-limiting beliefs.
Like I said – Normal. We all do these things from time to time. The critical thing is whether we get round to doing something about it. For some of us, the barriers to change are complex and require a lot of time and attention to overcome. However, for many of us all that may be required is constructive support and a neutral and objective third party who can ask the right questions, to whom we can be accountable and who will help us through our stumbling first steps into change.
Remember – asking for help is not an admission of failure – it’s a sign of integrity, willingness to grow and change, a sign that you are ready to move forward.
There are tools, tactics, and ways of thinking that can help you break out of your stuckness. There are skilled helpers that can show you how. But first, recognise that your stuckness comes from a deep knowing that you need to make a change, to make things better, more exciting. Acknowledge it. Say it out loud. Acknowledge the fact that you might need bit of help to get moving. Then find the help you need. You won’t regret it.